This book examines those relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct, and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these key relationships-be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommited lover, a dying parent, or a family member whom we have written off. And she teaches us about -the differences that make a difference'-the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood over the long haul. Through vivid and poignant examples from case studies and stories from her own life, Dr. Lerner shows us how good relationships can thrive and endure and difficult ones can be healed, and she illuminates the specific steps that women can take toward a more solid self and a more intimate connectedness with others.