In the early 1990s I was in college, and my good friend moved into my apartment. We'll call him Stu. We shared a small bedroom with two twin beds. His goal was to make the football team, and mine was to make the baseball team.
One day Stu was looking at the bulletin board on the wall above my small desk, which was crammed into a corner, and he asked me, What's with all the three-by-five cards? I told him they contained my goals for both the present and the future. He pulled down one of the white cards, looked at me with an odd smirk on his face. Willy, this one says 'Change the world and become a billionaire--at any cost.' He stared at me. Really? At any cost? The billionaire thing is great, but...
I still remember that moment, but now I think I should have written a card that said, Try to avoid the legal system.
The journey of The Unlikely Felon helped me appreciate the words of Auschwitz survivor Viktor Frankl more than ever before, not because I lived through anything close to the hell he experienced, but because I now understand his thoughts about his evolution. He wrote, No man should judge unless he asks himself in absolute honesty whether in a similar situation he might not have done the same. Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. I quote from the movie The Shawshank Redemption for three reasons: I love it, I've seen it nine or ten times, and I identify with the characters Andy and Red because they fought to hang on to their dignity, self-worth, and hope, even within a system that wanted to break their spirit and strip them of their humanity. My grandparents were an invaluable part of my life. They were strong and helpful--until they weren't. Life changes, and we all become old. As I watched mine age, they taught me about taking pride in your life and your situation. They were courageous, elegant, and proud. Yet in the end, they would lose their balance at the drop a hat, forget what they were trying to say, and often their faces showed how lost they felt. Each time their health deteriorated, I tried to learn more about the aging process. Cancer and heart attacks are usually a death knell for the aged, but the most common health issues for most elderly people are the more minor ones like osteoporosis, obesity, poor oral health, and substance abuse. Then you go up a level to shingles, respiratory disease, and diabetes, although many times these can be controlled with drug therapy or changes in lifestyle. I've learned that the greatest perils of aging are falling, influenza, and pneumonia, followed by Alzheimer's disease and depression. These last two are difficult because they make life so much harder for the elderly person experiencing the disease/s and for the caregiver in more ways than is imaginable. Have you ever been a caregiver? Are you one right now? If not, give it time--you likely will be. Currently the statistics say you have about an 80 percent chance of becoming a caregiver. One of the heroes of this story is my wife, Kay, the most amazing caregiver the world has ever seen. As you read this book, you'll witness her evolution and how she and I became more and more connected as we faced the deaths of loved ones and then legal problems--though we were both scared out of our minds. How could anyone's marriage survive this tragedy?
If you secretly enjoy watching a train wreck--this is your book. I hope this story makes you think, scares the hell out of some of you, and maybe challenges some of your deeper thoughts. Thank you for reading it. I'm very grateful. Get ready because the knock, knock is coming--the day that you will be called to meet a challenge that requires all your bravery and patience and your best, authentic self during the challenging times ahead.

Binding Type: Paperback
Publisher: Bookbaby
Published: 03/07/2022
ISBN: 9781667819471
Pages: 292