{"product_id":"is-it-you-or-is-it-me-why-couples-play-the-blame-game-9780060930295","title":"Is It You or is It Me?: Why Couples Play the Blame Game","description":"In this provocative new look at romantic relationships, psychologist Scott Wetzler explores the widespread phenomenon of misplaced anger that seems to define couple dynamics in the 1990s. He finds a wary, secretive, and combative atmosphere clouding relationships. Partners are feeling hurt and bruised by the very people with whom they are most vulnerable. In desperation and puzzlement, they are asking, \"Who's at fault here? Is it you or is it me?\" \u003cp\u003e What seems to be driving this \"inside-out\" dynamic, says Dr. Wetzler, is our increasing inability to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings that intimacy arouses--anger, anxiety, frustration, disappointment, or self-doubt. We have become utterly cynical about love and find it easier to hold our partners responsible for our psychological frailties than to own up to and work through the confusing emotions that inevitably accompany falling and being in love. \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e Written in a strong narrative style with illuminating case examples throughout, here is a book of relationship advice for grownups.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Harper Perennial\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 06\/23\/1999\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780060930295\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 272\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.69lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.40h x 5.12w x 0.69d","brand":"Scott Wetzler, Diane Cole","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51495084556469,"sku":"9780060930295","price":14.44,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0473\/0804\/6492\/files\/img_6f09104c-e121-4901-93db-5269b651f8f3.jpg?v=1754973976","url":"https:\/\/pastforward.org\/products\/is-it-you-or-is-it-me-why-couples-play-the-blame-game-9780060930295","provider":"Past Forward","version":"1.0","type":"link"}